My Services
For Couples
Are you struggling in your relationship? Are you at a loss for how to change things? Relationship counseling is a great way to gain new skills to navigate troubled waters in healthier and happier ways.
Approach
Just as in individual therapy, I believe the difficulties we face in relationship hold within them untapped possibilities of living more fully and connecting more deeply with yourself and with each other. My approach is:
Emotion & Body Focused
In relationship therapy, I lean heavily on emotion focused therapies that help you access the softer, more vulnerable ways of communicating with each other. Often we learn the habit of defense and protection in vulnerable situations. The freedom, joy and intimacy we long for can feel further and further away. I will help you learn to lay your shields down and turn toward each other with a more open conversation.
Integrative and practical
I am trained in a variety of relationship therapy modalities - including Gottman, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Attachment oriented therapy. I utilize the approach that is most needed for the relationship challenges you are facing.
Attachment Oriented
What did your early relational landscape look like? How did it shape you as a person in relationship? Together we'll identify what your automatic response patterns are and where they came from in your family of origin experience as well as through your lifespan. With this awareness, we can look at other ways you might respond and practice them in session.
Conscious Of Power (In All Its' Forms)
How does social inequality (sexism, homophobia, class, racism, etc.) impact you and your dynamic? It may be specifically important to name, make sense of, and work with more constructively social differences and inequities that exist in the relationship. I will support you in being able to talk freely about this and expand your range of skill and choice around how to work with it.
How does power play out in the relationship? What would more collaboration look like? Sometimes the way that power is in your relationship can feel rote or frustrating. We will examine your power dynamics and explore new ways of negotiating around decisions and sharing power.
Focused On Differentiation
How well do you set and keep to healthy boundaries? How connected do you stay with yourself in this relationship? One of my areas of focus in relationship therapy has to do with supporting you in learning how to be separate and full in your own independent selves and also connected, close and intimate. Differences can feel threatening or even impossible to navigate. I will support you in understanding and valuing each others' differences while addressing important concerns.
Fee
I offer 55 minute relationship therapy sessions for $205/session. Although I do not take insurance, I am happy to provide receipts for you to submit to insurance for reimbursement.